Thursday, January 6, 2011

What is the role of a good parent?

What is the role of a good parent?

Parenthood is a very funny thing. You are trying to do something that nobody has ever known how to do well. Even if you have 12 children, you are still learning. You may raise the first 11 properly, but the twelfth one can give you the works. So what's the best thing you can do? The foremost thing is to spend sufficient time and work a little bit upon yourself. Look at yourself carefully - how you are, how you sit, how you stand, how you speak, what you do, what you don’t do. Look at yourself very carefully because children pick up everything rapidly and they will exaggerate everything that you are doing.

So at least make yourself in such a way that you like the way you are. It doesn’t matter whether somebody else approves of you or not but if you are in such a way that even you don’t like yourself then definitely, your child - one more human being, need not go that way. So becoming conscious of what we are doing is extremely important. This doesn’t necessarily make you a good parent, but it is a must because it creates the necessary ambience.

Creating the necessary ambience is a large part of parenthood. You must create the right kind of atmosphere - a certain sense of joy, love, care and discipline within yourself and in your home. If every day in your house, tension, anger, fear, anxiety and jealousy are the only things being demonstrated to your child, he will obviously learn only these. If you really have the intention of bringing up your child well, you must first change your way of being. You should change yourself to be a loving, joyous and peaceful being. If you don't know how to keep yourself in this manner, what can you do for your child? If you are incapable of transforming yourself, where is the question of you bringing up your child?

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